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Importance of Completion with Parents

By Ma Durga on August 20, 2018 / Health

I’ve been helping people to do completion of their root patterns and I can say that 95% of the root patterns are related to the root incidents involving their parents.

You may ask – what is root pattern?

According to Swamiji, a living Avatar, His Divine Holiness Paramahamsa Nithyananda, he defines root pattern as the first attack of any strong emotion happening in you and imbalancing your whole cognition, giving birth to your mind, the pattern you developed from that moment, is called ‘root-pattern’. It can be anything as simple as your mother did not give you the cake, instead she gave it to your brother or as traumatic as a physical abuse! It does not matter the actual incident, what really matters is the moment powerlessness takes over you for the first time in your life, and your cognition is imbalanced, the mind is born, the pattern which you develop at that time is “root-pattern”. That is the root on which the mind is born. The moment the root-pattern is born, our life is destroyed and our growth is stopped! Only when we complete with our root-pattern, we begin to come back to life again, life starts happening in us. Till we understand our root-pattern and complete with it, we cannot be peaceful anywhere in the world even in the most luxurious serene beach resort. A disturbed inner space caused by the root pattern will constantly carry the wounds and smell of this incompletion.

Courage to give my child a golden childhood

By Ma Durga on June 15, 2018 / Parenting

3 years old boy smelling flower in autumnal scenery

What is a golden childhood?

“Golden childhood is a matured being in a child’s body. When a matured being lives in a child’s body, that is a golden childhood. He or she will be as innocent as kids, as enlightened as more than any adult!” ~ A living Avatar, His Holiness Paramahamsa Nithyananda (fondly known as Swamiji)

Swamiji further explains that a childhood becomes a golden childhood when it is full of powerful moments, no powerlessness in any moment in life. Unfortunately, the children today live mostly with fear, greed and stress without the maturity to handle their lives. An important expression of a golden childhood is about having the maturity to take responsibility for others even though they are still in a child’s body. This means a matured being in a child’s body, living a joyful childhood – that is the best life for a child.

As a conscious mother, I already knew my son, Kai was a matured soul who had come down to take the human civilization to the next level. Hence, I started to create a spiritual vatavarana (ambience) around him when he was merely 3 years old – the same year after I first met Swamiji. I was so engrossed by the happening of Swamiji’s incarnation that I devoured his teaching from all the books he had written from his various discourses. This helped to quench my thirst for spiritual knowledge. Every night before sleep, I would share with Kai all the amazing miraculous stories about Swamiji and the enlightened masters that I read. Naturally all these stories piqued his curiosity and soon he started to develop an enthusiasm about the inspirational life of enlightened masters. As a Yoga teacher, I also prepared his body when he was 4 years old through Yoga and meditation. He would share with me his extraordinary spiritual experiences after a yoga practice. There is a saying in Vedic tradition that the mother is a child’s first Guru, I didn’t know anything about a golden childhood but I only knew I was responsible for guiding him to his spiritual awakening.

Finally, in 2009, Kai met Swamiji for the first time in a one-day program called Kalpataru (wish-fulfilling tree) when Swamiji visited Singapore. It was such a touching sweet moment for me to witness the meeting of these 2 extraordinary souls. When Kai and I walked up to the stage where Swamiji was sitting on a throne for the energy darshan (initiation by sight), Kai just dived straight into Swamiji’s chest and hugged him so tightly. Kai waited for so long to meet Swamiji again in this life time.

Be a space holder for your child’s possibilities

By Ma Durga on January 13, 2017 / Parenting

Would you encourage your child to explore the innate intelligence and extraordinary powers?

It saddens me when I see many parents who are terrified of the unknown and their child’s higher possibilities due to their own ignorance that they stop their child/children from the process of self-discovery.

Here’s a true story.

A young girl who is suffering from a lot pressure and stress from parents, schools and peers, she has started to develop certain developmental difficulties as she becomes withdrawn and lacks self confidence. Literally she is like a little bird caged by the conditioning of parents, society and the educational system. When she came to have a private tuition session with a disciple of my Guru, Paramahamsa Nithyananda (fondly known as Swamiji), they decided to play and casually explore the power of third eye even though she was not initiated by Swamiji. The devotee was able to hold a powerful space of possibilities for her to discover her innate intelligence and powers. She was able to read blindfolded just by entangling with an initiated disciple of Swamiji. That’s amazing phenomenon.